I read an article today about why some men believe they shouldn’t date single moms, to say it was disgusting is an understatement.
This is for all you single moms out there…
Most of us didn’t choose to raise our babies alone, some of us our circumstances meant we had to choose between our babies and our partners. Some of us chose to raise our babies alone because it was a better choice than bringing them up in an angry, scary, negative, dangerous environment.
Some of single moms have had to battle stereotypes and judgemental comments and people since our bumps started showing till our babies started walking, talking, going to nursery, schools. We had to keep a brave face in front of our beautiful babies so they didn’t pick up on the negativity and sadness it bought to us.
Some of us have had to deal with abuse, harassment, threats whilst pretending we were okay when deep down inside we felt scared and helpless. And then fight with every breathe and energy inside of us through legal systems proving that being the only parent in the household and in your child’s life was the best thing for them and their child/children.
Some of us have worked 72hour weeks earning enough money to keep a roof over her and her baby/babies heads,food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs and giving them the opportunity to enjoy life and create memories with no child maintenance only one sole income theirs. And whilst we work all these hours most of the money left is for childcare so we can go to work and not be stereotyped as a scrounger!
Whilst most of us are happy being single parents and doing it alone some aren’t and that’s okay. Everyone wants to be wanted and loved and that’s okay. Just because we are single moms doesn’t not mean we are slags, sluts whatever you want to call us. But for your information a few things we defiantly are;
We are independent, strong, kind, caring, loving, hard working, dedicated, passionate women who wake up every day and care for little people sole handily. We are the women that bring our children up to know what’s right from wrong, to know that coming from a single parent home is not a bad thing but an inspiring thing. We are teaching our children that women don’t need men to raise their children, we are creating good, kind, hardworking, appreciative children that will never want for anything and that will remember their childhood with happy memories and remember their mom did it alone.
So if you don’t want to date a single parent that’s fine but you are missing out on being part of a beautiful family unit that will never need your financial help, your cooking skills, your parental expertise, your help with disciple, your transport to take to and from school and clubs and they’ll never need your presence because we are bloody amazing strong independent warriors!!